Choice is a privilege; but if you can pick three
I’m old school, unsure of where I sit between the Gen Y and millennials. I still read magazines, harbouring a lifelong love of the glossies. Having been woken by the bubba at 5.30 this morning tugging for milk on my boob, all that was left to help me drift back to noddyland was a copy of Red. I cam across an article by the Zuckerberg sister, Randi, on how she manages a busy successful work and family life using the ‘pick three method’.
In a nutshell you pick three things that matter to you and make them your priority for that day only. Don’t try to add more to your list, don’t feel guilty about the things that arent on it (bump them up another day), and be great at them. The things that most people have on their lists are family, work, friends, fitness, home and mental health. At the start of the day you choose which three and, so Zuckerberg says, you will have a more balanced life.
We are moving away from the world of the mum who can have it all; the expectation of the mum in a power suit dropping kids to day care and floating into her high powered job with the perfect blow dry are gone… poof! Like this woman ever existed anyway.
The bit that struck me is that we are lucky if we get to choose our three. For most people, life picks them for us… whether we are single parents juggling work and kids, a mother in a mental health struggle or a mam who cant work as she’s been priced out by childcare.
None of us has the privilege to ‘have it all’… but its up to us to factor in choice. We can all choose at least one of these magic three and tell ourselves to do our best at them and that tomorrow is another day.
Today I really wanted to work, but without any childcare I was feeling resentful and more than a tad sorry for myself. So I made a choice, a choice to live in today and roll with it. We enjoyed fun with friends at their allotment, with big adventures and outdoor learning for both 1 and 4 yr old. Happy days in the sun.